GEN X ISTYLE

Today’s woman has the future in mind and an intelligent women looks out for a guy who treats her well and is more of a buddy rather then a jailer.
Coffee Day. October 31. We find Neha Agrawal cootchicooing with her new guy and suddenly her eye falls on a blue-eyed guy on the next table. She gives him a smile, and in return he winks. “This should work out,” she murmurs to herself.
The days are gone when guys persuaded gals. The wheel has turned and so have the tables and it’s women who’re doing the asking.
A lowdown on the kind of men women want. So here goes… “You got to find somebody who likes the same stuff. Like if you like movies, he should like it that you like movies, and he should keep the chips and dips coming,” says 20-year Tina Sen. What’s it that attracts the girls? Is it the sweet mushy kind or someone with a great physique? “It’s difficult to choose,” says a confused 17-year Shubana. Today’s woman has the future in mind and an intelligent woman looks out for a guy who treats her well and is more of a buddy rather then a jailer. “My friends opinions helps me take decisions, as I would like someone who’s worthwhile and has respect in the society,” says 22-year Kalpana. “A girl wants a guy who has a strong sense of responsibility and should be aware of his plans future. We need someone who gives us an equal say and understands if we reach late to meet them or when we have a number of guy friends,” says 19-year-old Reena.
“Today the girl knows her likes and dislikes and she thinks before making a commitment,” says Savita Date Menon, psychologist, Apollo Hospital. “He should be well dressed, need not be after costly labels as such but should have decent sense of dressing,” says 19-year shilpa who loves partying.
“Knowing about the person’s personality and character are so important. One good test is to list the qualities that attract us to that guy or girl. If the list is long, we know a lot about them and like those things. If the list is short, we either don’t know a lot about them or we know a lot but aren’t attracted to his or her personality,” says Savita Menon.
On the other hand the preferences of the other sex, the male brigade continues to be what it was a few decades earlier. “A relationship where the woman is attractive, dresses well, doesn’t demand too much and is intelligent is an irresistible combination,” says Rehan. He forgets to throw in a BMW and a Swiss bank balance to the list!
“We usually go for an attractive girl. We look out for someone who can be a buddy. We expect the girl not to be too pushy and as we look out for an easy relationship without commitment,” says Sahil, a medicine student.
“But they don’t throw light on such issues in the beginning of a relationship. All this is put in later,” says Sonia Malik. “They say that they don’t know what’s going to happen next and would expect the girls not to have too many expectations with them,” says Sumitra Dev. “I’ve seen my friends break-up relationships due to silly commitments,” she adds.
Infatuation can be so tempting isn’t it? It isn't a bad thing, as long as we don't base a relationship on it. Being uninvolved is the whole idea of having a satisfying relationship.
It's love at first sight and before it’s realized we land up with a blissfully riding off into the sunset.
Siddamsetty Shripuja